Good Neighbour, Bad Neighbour

if you’re a rich guy, you may afford to buy a banglow with ample land for kids to play or doing your ‘casa impian’ things..but for an average income like me, i’ll only afford to settle with a terrace house…a terrace(d), row house, or townhouse (though the latter term can also refer to patio houses) is a style of housing in use since the late 17th century, where a row of identical or mirror-image houses share side walls. The first and last of these houses is called an end terrace, usually larger than those houses in the middle.

living in a terrace house will force you to have neighbours at the left and right side of your house..they will be different in every aspects such as family relationship, education, family income capacity, attitudes and religion or faith..they may be friendly or they may be as rude as a dog…a good neighbour is someone who cares about his neighbour (but not gossip searcher)..respect his neighbour’s right, avoid conflicts and can be trusted..but never expect your neighbour to become like a family member of yours as they may be different than what you’re expected.. in islam, neighbours can be defined as someone who; “serve Allah and join not any partners with Him: and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those in need, neighbors who are near, neighbors who are strangers, the companion by your side, the way-farer (ye meet) and what your right hands possess: for Allah loveth not the arrogant the vainglorious;” – An-Nisaa (4),36

most of us may soon or later will have either small or big conflicts with your neighbour..sometimes you may feel that every good deeds you gave was not been appreciated by your neighbour(s)..well, take it easy and don’t take it seriously..they’re just your neighbour and not your family members..some of them may experienced ‘tak cukup kasih sayang’ syndrome, some of them may have a  ‘jealous’ envy kind of heart, some of them may just a community follower or a trend follower..just take care your own well being and family…avoid financial embarrassment..then you’ll be respected..more or less..

we need to be good to our hadith, Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) commanded me thus, “O Abu Dharr! Whenever you prepare a broth, put plenty of water in it, and and give some of it to your neighbours”. In another narration of Muslim, narrated Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him): My friend, (Messenger of Allah (PBUH)) advised me saying, “Whenever you prepare a broth, put plenty of water in it, and give some to your neighbours and then give them out of this with courtesy.”  This Hadith makes it clear that Islam does not like a Muslim to ignore his poor neighbour and eat up everything himself. It stresses that one must take care of his poor neighbours. If a person is not in a position to do more, he should at least add some water in the broth he cooks for his own food and send a portion of it to his deserving neighbour. It leads us to the conclusion that a Muslim should in no case be unmindful of his neighbour and if he is well-to-do, he should be all the more charitable to his neighbours.

in another narration of Muslim is: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “He will not enter Jannah whose neighbour is not secure from his wrongful conduct”.  This Hadith reveals that hurting or troubling a neighbour is such a serious offence that it causes Allah’s Wrath, and thus punishment in Hell.  

we are encourage to present gifts to our neighbour as Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “O Muslim women! No one of you should consider insignificant (a gift) to give to her neighbour even if it is (a gift of) the trotters of a sheep”. This Hadith means that neighbours should present gifts to each other. The rich men and the poor according to their means. One who is poor should not think that what he is presenting to his neighbour is not worthy of giving. Even his humble gift, provided it is presented with sincerity, will find acceptance with Allah. According to the Noble Qur’an: “So whosoever does good equal to the weight of an ant (or a small ant) shall see it.” (99:7).. it is, however, better for a rich person to present a gift which goes well with his means. He should not give anything to his neighbour which is stale or which he does not like for himself because apart from insincerity, such a thing shows his contempt for the neighbour while gift is, in fact, a token of sincerity and brotherhood.

well my neighbours… i’d done and tried to follow the guidelines of Quran and Hadith…it’s up to you all now…


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